How to Think Like a Man


If men are from Mars and women are from Venus, it is little wonder that the two genders have a hard time understanding what the other thinks. You may want the man in your life to put himself in your shoes more often, but the road goes both ways, and you should try to understand a little more about how men think, too. Once you understand more about how to think like a man, your communication and interaction with the men in your life will likely improve.


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    Be straight-forward. Women have a tendency to dance around the topic instead of getting straight to the point, and often drag a thought or topic out for an extended length of time. Men, by comparison, are more likely to state their thoughts directly and promptly, and a man will rarely pick up on the fact that there is an underlying concern or matter that a woman in his life has on her mind. To think more like a man, share whatever is on your mind as soon as it is on your mind. State it directly and without leaving hints that there may be something more beneath the surface.

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    Skip the surprises. Men are more likely to state exactly what they want and are not as sentimental about surprises. The occasional surprise gift or gesture might still be appreciated, of course, but the man in your life will probably be less upset over the fact that you had to ask him what he wanted for Christmas than you will be.

    • By the same token, be direct about what you want, as well. If your boyfriend or husband is having a hard time figuring out what you want for your anniversary, offer to provide him with a few suggestions. Outside of romance, if you are interested in a new position at your company or believe that you deserve more responsibility, be direct in your desire and tell your supervisor instead of hoping to be noticed.
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    Avoid obsessing or over-thinking. Men and women both worry, but women are more likely to continue worrying long after a man puts the concern to rest. This is true in regards to relationship issues, family matters, and troubles at the work place. Worry about things you have control over, when you have control over them. If you are unable to take action about something at any given time, set it to rest until the time comes to deal with it again. Avoid fixating over something unnecessarily.

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    Show a little independence. Most men like to be depended on, but most men also like to know that the woman in their lives can take care of herself when she needs to. Men are not as sentimental as women and do not crave the same level of emotional support that women often do. By allowing yourself your own independence by showing that you can take care of yourself at work or in your social life, you can gain insight about how men think about independence while demonstrating to the men around you that you value your own independence just as highly.

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    Let him know you need him. Even though men value independence, they also need to feel needed from time to time, too. The need to be needed is more of a human trait than it is a male or female trait. At a basic level, men usually enjoy thinking that their skill or knowledge is of practical use, so do not be afraid to ask for directions or for help fixing your tire. At a more intimate level, men also need to know that you trust them well enough to share your concerns with them. Be warned, however, that men will likely try to offer practical advice and may try to “fix” the problem, rather than simply offering you support. Wanting to fix your problem is how a man acts when he seriously thinks about your problems, though.

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    Get physical.  Touch is a good way to show a man your intentions. Contrary to how it may seem, a good man is interested in the emotional aspect of physical contact just as much as he is the actual physical aspect. Men might be able to separate the two more easily than most women, but a man is also more likely to demonstrate his affections using physical means and, as such, will understand when you use physical means to convey your own.

    • Not every man responds to touch, so you should take careful note of his personality before you begin making contact. Moreover, you must also touch in ways that are only appropriate to your relationship. If you have a good male friend who you have no romantic interest in, for instance, you should probably avoid cuddling or kissing.
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    Worry less about your looks. Some men can be vain about their appearances, and even men may have body image issues, but they are less likely as a gender to stand in front of a mirror and fret over the things that are wrong. As such, men are also less likely to understand when you do it. To think more like a man, try distracting yourself with things you do like about your appearance or body the next time you feel tempted to worry about the little imperfections.

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    Worry less about casual relationships. Men will value close relationships with people whom they are close to. In a working relationship or other casual setting, however, men tend not to worry as much about the interpersonal aspect of things as women do. Next time an argument happens with a co-worker or a barista gives you a dirty look, shake it off and press forward. Do not fret or worry about what caused the rift, and avoid taking things too personally or allowing the tension to bleed into other non-related aspects of your life.

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    Play a few video games or strategy games. [3] Not every man plays video games and computer games, but girl gamers are considered a rare breed for a reason. To think more like a man, play the types of games a man might play. Rent or buy a game that that requires you to strategically plan out your moves to achieve a goal, like an MMORPG or a battle simulation game. If video games really are not for you, buy a strategic board game and learn the rules. The value and emphasis on strategy is still the same.

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    Keep yourself updated on news about gadgets and science. By now, it is no secret that the male brain tends to be more oriented toward math, science, and technology than it is toward the arts. To understand more about what the male brain is concerned with or enamored of, brush up on science and technology lingo and keep yourself up-to-date on the latest news in those fields. Doing so may even provide you with potential topics of conversation with the men in your life.

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